When I made amends to Y it was extremely difficult I was guilt ridden. When I did the footwork and turned the results over... my victim character defect had its foundation shaken up. I was also a victimizer. The see saw of character defects victim - victimizer.
They also mentioned putting ourselves at the top of the list. I feel odd thinking of making amends to myself for the wrongs I did. Learning to take care of myself one day at a time.
I took care of others at my expense, but then I expected them to care for me. It was a no win situation...full of resentments for desert.
Taking responsibility for my precious life is freeing. This is a revolutionary act learning to help make the world a better place.
"Most of the shadows of this life are caused my standing in one's own sunshine"