Sunday, March 3, 2013

Let God do the work

The day was nice and full with a little too many activities scheduled. I had a big breakfast with the nephew hopped into the car for the flea market. Precious old items on tables lined the flat base as large cargo ships
rolled past. I enjoyed spending time with our nephew, he is a considerate boy. There are times I treat him
too much like a friend and think a boundary is good for both of us.
He has been through a similar crazy childhood filled with a drug addict father shooting up cocktails from the pharmacy. It's something he doesn't like to talk about so I keep quiet.
Instead I try to encourage him.
Bringing this up when others don't ask for addict information is bad timing. They may never bring it up so I learn to  let God carry them.

Al Anon is for people who want it rather than people who need it.

Step 6  Be willing, Be ready and let God do the work

My days are feeling fuller with less anxiety. In Jan. it was 5 years again in the program for this I am grateful.

Saturday, March 2, 2013

Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don’t be mean when you say it.

Feeling content tonight reading and relaxing. MY BIL and family has recently returned from his other home.
He is rubbing me the wrong way, I have to make sure my expectations aren't getting in the way. 
Some of his  behaviors are disturbing and how do I take care of myself around this?
Taking care of me means setting my boundaries about what is acceptable behavior.
B is a heavy drinker and his problem seems to be getting worse over the years.
Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don’t be mean when you say it.
Tonight I am going to take the focus off him and keep the focus on what I need to take care of myself.
Detach with love.
HP has a plan and I don't have to figure it out.