Compassion

Compassion is the understanding or empathy for others. Compassion is the emotion that we feel in response to the suffering of others that motivates a desire to help.

Compassion is often regarded as having an emotional aspect to it, though when based on cerebral notions such as fairness, justice and interdependence, it may be considered rational in nature and its application understood as an activity based on sound judgment. There is also an aspect of compassion which regards a quantitative dimension, such that individual's compassion is often given a property of "depth," "vigour," or "passion." The etymology of "compassion" is Latin, meaning "co-suffering." More involved than simple empathy, compassion commonly gives rise to an active desire to alleviate another's suffering. It is often, though not inevitably, the key component in what manifests in the social context as altruism. In ethicalterms, the various expressions down the ages of the so-called Golden Rule often embodies by implication the principle of compassion: Do to others what you would have them do to you.^[1]

As I unfreeze my emotional state  compassion for myself and then others has appeared in my life.

Tonight it was tough at the meeting feeling very disconnected with others in the room. A woman I have known for many years talked to a man intimately about her difficult relationship with her boyfriend. I listened and started to feel angry and then sad. This woman gave me the impression in the past that she was a close friend. She would chat with me very intimately and then out of the rooms it was like the conversation never happened. I called her but rarely received a call back. These type of situations trigger me as this is something my mother would do. Promise me the world and then abandon me and act as if nothing happened. It's sick behavior really and confusing to me.

How do I take care of myself?

I try not to engage with this person keep the focus on myself. Have compassion for myself. Pray for the lady.

Keep working a program more will be revealed.