Drove to work on a new project which is finally going better after some talking to
the other person about his behavior and disregard for my direction. At one point I emailed him
several times for the same change order which he did not follow through on.
After this I told him to please not continue working on the project.
It was a long night of frustration but in the morning I felt like something had broken through...
Turning it over time and time again in my endless obsession on how badly I was being treated.
This was a childhood pattern that developed as most promises were not kept, too many drinks too many lovers to please by my parents. But life and the jagged edges are softening in my world today.
Just for today I can reach into more current peaceful states and have it guide me with the help of Alanon.
I thought that if I didnt get help soon my life would slip further and further into depression. Having compassion for myself and others in my daily struggles.
Meditation is central to Discovering the Heart of Buddhism, as it deepens and stabilises our exploration of our experience. The simplicity of being that we discover in meditation spills over into our lives, and this natural process is helped by pausing to reconnect with our awareness during the day.
“It isn’t what happens to us that causes us to suffer; it’s what we say to ourselves about what happens.” ~Pema Chodron
The science of self-compassion
So what is self-compassion? What does it mean exactly?
Kristin Neff's new book, Self-Compassion (William Morrow, 2011).
As I’ve defined it, self-compassion entails three core components. First, it requires self-kindness, that we be gentle and understanding with ourselves rather than harshly critical and judgmental. Second, it requires recognition of our common humanity, feeling connected with others in the experience of life rather than feeling isolated and alienated by our suffering. Third, it requires mindfulness—that we hold our experience in balanced awareness, rather than ignoring our pain or exaggerating it. We must achieve and combine these three essential elements in order to be truly self-compassionate.
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